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Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Where did September go?.

I don't know where the month of September and October went, it just flew by. For the past two months I've been mommy on the go. From taking the little one's to preschool, and mommy and me classes and then to after-school football practice, and tutoring. Then right back home to laundry, dinner, cleaning house and my own school work. Whew! I'm tired!

It feels like there is never anytime for myself. I rent movies to watch and they just sit and collect dust until Blockbuster calls to tell me they want them back. I've become the frumpy mom, complete with no makeup, ponytail and the same outfit day after day. So how does one correct this? How do you stop being frumpy "do-it-all" mom?

Maybe we have to become a little more selfish.

I know that sounds terrible right? Yet I think it is sometimes necessary to be selfish in order to maintain sanity. I let my home go all last weekend, and guess what? Noone reported me to the local newspaper for being a terrible mother and wife... Dishes lay in the sink and cheerios littered the floor. Laundry piled up and I didn't cook anything for anyone, instead McDonalds and Wendys fed my little one's and the husband and teenager fended for themselves. I did homework, I took the kids to the toy store and I did nothing. Saturday morning while everyone slept, I crept out of the house like a ninja at 6am and went to Paneras. I took a book with me and had a cup of coffee and read until my husband called me around 8am. "Where are you", he said in a somewhat irritated tone. "When are you coming home?" once again in an irritated tone. He couldn't complain to much because he had snuck off to golf Thursday and left me sick with the kids, as well as he went to the movies Friday night, and was going again that evening to a birthday party with his friends.

The best part of my morning? The silence. It was so nice to have some peace and be able to sip a cup of coffee without the kids. In fact I think I do it again this Saturday morning. I also went out with a girlfriend on Sunday night and had dinner and drinks. I didn't worry about the money or the time, I just enjoyed. It was nice being so selfish. I also didn't "ask" my hubby to watch the kids, I just told him I was going out, and "expected" him to take care of the kids, just like he "expects" that I will take care of the kids when he goes out.

So what I'm learning is that sometimes you have to be a little selfish in regards to time for yourself. If you don't take the time, then nonone will ever offer it to you. They will just the assume that you enjoy being the frumpy, do-it-all mommy....

My question for you

Are you selfish enough?